How Discovering My Emotional Authority Changed the Way I Make Decisions

One of the most life-changing moments in my Human Design journey was learning about my personal Authority. A Human Design Authority is the way each of us is uniquely designed to make decisions. I had spent years trying to “trust my gut,” make fast choices, and push myself to respond immediately… all because that is what society encouraged.

But it didn’t feel right. And deep down, I knew it because most of the time I questioned myself.

What I didn’t know was why it felt off or that there was another way I was meant to operate. Everything shifted the day I learned that I had an Emotional Authority.

Before Human Design: Rushing, Reacting, Regretting

Before I understood my design, I made decisions quickly, almost too quickly. I felt pressured to respond right away. I felt like I needed to “just decide,” especially when emotions were high or when someone expected an answer.

Looking back… yikes. There were definitely moments where my emotions made the decisions for me, and the outcome wasn’t aligned.

I often felt overwhelmed by the pressure to commit, confused by my own reactions, drained from choices that didn’t feel right, or frustrated with myself for “being too emotional.” But I wasn’t “too emotional.” I was acting against my design.

Understanding Emotional Authority: Clarity Takes Time

When I discovered Human Design, the concept of Emotional Authority clicked instantly. I realized that I wasn’t meant to make decisions in the moment. I need time to feel through the emotional wave. And I am talking about major decisions, not what to have for dinner. I learned that clarity comes only after I have worked through the buildup of my emotions. So, if I experience a period when I am feeling a lot, I don’t decide.

Human Design taught me that my emotions aren’t obstacles. They are information. They are part of my internal process, and they deserve to be honored, not judged.

Being an Emotional Authority asked me to do something radical: wait.

Not days of waiting, but just enough time for my emotions to settle so I can see the truth without the distortion of the moment.

The Emotional Wave: Where My Clarity Lives

I used to think my emotions were flaws. Now I understand that they are a teacher. My emotional build-up teaches me patience, compassion, self-trust, and creativity. When I am going through an emotional build-up, I used to become overwhelmed and panic. Now, I pause, soften, and permit myself to feel without forcing a conclusion.

The most powerful thing I have learned is that on the other side of my emotional discomfort, clarity and creativity emerge. This has transformed many things in my life - my relationships, my work, my well-being, and the way I show up for myself.

Honoring My Emotional Authority in Daily Life

As I have integrated this wisdom, my life feels more grounded and spacious, even through the discomfort. Now, I don’t rush decisions anymore, rest when my emotions are heightened, treat myself with love and compassion, remind myself that on the other side will be clarity, and I have stopped apologizing for not making a decision right away.

Emotional Authority Has Brought Me Home to Myself

Learning about my Emotional Authority improved my decision-making and helped me understand on a deeper level who I am.

It taught me that I thrive when I move at the pace of my clarity. It taught me that my emotions are teachers, not problems. And it taught me to trust myself in ways I never had before.

I can say that I am more creative, aligned, intentional, and more ME! Human Design didn’t give me something new. It gave me permission to be the person I always was.

If You’re Curious About Your Authority…

Your Authority is one of the most important pieces of your Human Design. It’s your internal compass. Your truth-teller and your guide.

If you want help discovering yours or understanding how to live it, I would love to support you.

Reach out, and we can explore your design together.